Did you make goals for 2015? I did. And I wrote a post about each one. (way. too.many.goals.posts. sorry, are we still friends?)
In the last few years, I’ve become increasingly nerdy when it comes to goals. Perhaps because most days I feel like if I get one thing done – besides laundry, prep & dishes for 3 meals and snacks, & having relatively clean children – it’s a win.
What? reading a non-fiction book and eating Frango mints doesn’t count towards “getting one thing done?” I beg to differ. My goals are pretty big. Try to be as ambitious as I am.
Anyway, here are my 2015 goals, and I just wanted to update you on how they went down. Not that you care. Except, this “system” finally worked. This is the first year I stuck to most of my goals. (Key word: most.) So I wanted to share them with you, hoping it is motivating. I didn’t keep goals this year because I suddenly became an awesome resolution follower. Nope. Still spacey and all-over-the-place as ever 🙂 But this year, I simplified my goals. I made 1 specific, measurable goal in each category from the wheel below. That’s it. No extras allowed. Just one.
The picture is from Zig Ziglar’s Wheel of Life, which is comprised of 7 categories. If you’re not sure how to make goals, I’d HIGHLY recommend this! Just do one specific, measurable goal in each category. (Another goal-making tips post coming soon.)
I split ‘family’ into marriage and parenting, which as you’ll see later was a mistake since I ended up forgetting to make a marriage goal.
Here’s how my 2015 goals ended up.
2015 Goals Recap: Spiritual
My spiritual goal this year was listening prayer. Based on Sarah Young’s devotional, Jesus Calling, I set out the year to practice the discipline of listening prayer. I sat down worked on this up through June-ish. I stopped doing it sometime this summer and never really started back up. 50% fail. The past month or so, as I started to think about the year’s end, and how I had let this goal go, I started practicing more listening and less of the ‘doing’ during my quiet time. It was so refreshing. The Lord gave me a clear vision for this blog, and really spoke to my heart about focusing on Him during the Advent season. Note to self: listening prayer is worth it. Put down the distractions. Quiet my heart. And listen more.
We’re on vacation this week (I wrote this post in advance), and I’ll be setting aside time to listen to the Spirit, be quiet, and pray over 2016.
2015 Goals Recap: Physical
My physical goal this year was to go to the gym twice a week. That happened most weeks. I didn’t keep track, but that was our pattern. We went 2-3 days the first half of the year, and when our fall schedule started, it was mostly 2, sometimes just once. I’d call this one a success!
2015 Goals Recap: Intellectual
My intellectual goal this year was to read 6 books. Surprisingly, I read more than that. Win! I started to occasionally use naps or evenings to read instead of blog or watch a show. I hear reading is more beneficial than TV, but I’m not sure… I mean, I’ve learned a lot about the law from The Goodwife, so…. who needs books!?
From what I’ve read this year, here are some I’d recommend: Girl on the Train; In the Garden of Beasts: Love, Terror & an American Family in Hitler’s Berlin; Gone Girl; Prayer for Beginners; For the Love; The Millionaire Next Door
2015 Goals Recap: Social
My 2015 social goal was to invest in friendships here in Omaha. It’s been hard to pick up and move several times. But, God has provided wonderful friends in each place we’ve lived. By the time we’ve moved, it’s been hard to leave – what a reminder of His faithfulness to meet all our needs!
Meeting people (outside of our wonderful family support network) felt hard here compared to some of the other places we’ve lived, but I’m so grateful to have made some really good friends here. Making friends is hard. It’s draining, a long-haul investment. If you’re in a place where you’re longing for a friend, or in between friendships… keep investing, keep praying, keep leaning on the Lord. Be a good friend, be yourself, invite someone to coffee, ask good questions, and shower occasionally. Friendships grow. It takes time and effort.
2015 Goals Recap: Financial
Ben and I had a financial goal of paying down approximately 1/3 of our debt this year. We didn’t share exact numbers, but it was a crazy high goal for us. And what’s even super crazier… we paid off more than our goal.
Honestly, it feels like a miracle. I feel giddy when I think about it. Debt is the worst!!! I can’t wait till it’s completely gone.
We are feeling the emotional momentum from paying it down like crazy this year, and it’s awesome. If you have debt, GET RID OF IT. Start now. I’m working on a whole separate post about what we’ve learned from our debt-paydown journey this year, but y’all the best time to get out of debt is now! It is so so so freeing.
2015 Goals Recap: Non-Mom Career
I wrote about my dilemma between choosing mom as a career and making other “career” goals in my original post on this category. Can any of you other SAHM’s out there relate? My non-mom career goal was: Become a better writer by practicing a lot and investigate ways to monetize a website/ blog. In that original post, I mentioned that thinking through career goals was difficult because I used to be a school teacher, then I turned stay at home mom, last year I was teaching a few piano students one night a week, and I also had this desire to work towards growing this blog, but I don’t really count that as a career. So. Many. Things. (Too many, really.)
A lot of things happened this year towards the whole more-writing-monetize-blog thing.
I started out in March by mainly focusing on writing. In January, I had written 5 posts, in February, none. In March 21 and in April 14. Win.
Meanwhile, I was also researching the possibility of turning this blog into a business. For 4 1/2 years, it had just been this side hobby. I’d go in phases of writing and not writing. It’s been a journal of sorts. But I had an inexplicable urge to turn it into a business and “grow it.”
I didn’t even what that meant.
Grow it into what? I didn’t know.
How? I didn’t know.
Why? I didn’t know.
As I researched, thought, prayed, and verbally processed way too much to my dear dear husband, some next steps became clearer and some things were still fuzzy. I took next steps based on a few “how to start a blog” articles I read, and I just kept writing. About all the things. It’s been a fun, new challenge and turns out, I really like it!
Other changes happened too. I stopped teaching piano because again, inexplicably, Ben and I both felt like I should focus only on being home with our kids and blogging.
I learned about monetizing blogs and am working on that more now. [Is anyone interested in a beginner-how-to-blog series?]
So, here we are. Not quite a year later. This blog has grown in terms of posts, readers, income, etc… I’m still learning about writing and I still have a million goals related to it. But, there’s been progress. I’d call this one a win.
2015 Goals Recap: Parenting
My parenting goal was kind of vague – be more engaged with my kids. That was a little bit against the rules because goals are supposed to be specific. Measurable. Attainable. But really, how do you measure parenting goals? I wrote more about why these little years have been hard for me in the original post.
Honestly, I think the Lord has helped me grow a LOT in this over the past year. I’m less irritated with them and more grateful for them. Though it’s hard to define, and I have lots of room to grow as a mom, this one is a win.
2015 Goals Recap: Marriage
Well, i forgot to make a goal in this one. Whoops. Should have stuck to Zig’s original categories… So, fail.
Did you make 2015 goals? Are you making 2016 goals or resolutions or whatever you want to call them? This post has some ideas about goal-making principles and how to make goals you can stick to.
Coming soon: inspiration for 2016 goals & my 2016 goals. 🙂
Happy New Year, friends!