This post is #1 in a 5 part series titled “Rhythms & Grace of Every Day Mom Life.” You can find all the posts in the series here.
Did you finish reading the intro yet? (If not, click over and read that quickly.) I hope it gave you a glimpse of the freedom that is coming your way as you embrace rhythms & grace in your mothering!
The first thing we need to do is to get on the same page about what rhythms & grace actually are.
Rhythms are basic systems, routines, and/or habits that help your day flow. Everything from how you start your morning to when you make dinner to how you get out the door to how you use social media.
Rhythms are NOT rules for ways you have to do things all the time.
Rhythms are NOT exact military style schedules.
They’re… well…. rhythms. Basic ins and outs for how, when, and why you do the things you need and want to do.
Grace is what seasons the rhythms.
Grace is not some arbitrary religious word that makes you feel kinda nice.
Grace is the real unmerited favor and blessings of God flowing to you… freely available for the taking.
Whether you are religious or not, you are experiencing grace in some way on a day to day basis. It’s all the good things that are undeserved… The baby miraculously sleeps in on the day you’re extra tired. The boss didn’t even check his email when you missed the deadline. The classroom full of child terrors behaved amazingly the day you felt sick but still went to work.
If you are not a Christian, you will still get some practical help from this course because implementing rhythms is just a good way to make everyday mom life a little less crazy.
BUT, you should know up front that being a Christian is the foundation of everything for me. I don’t go to church on Sundays because I think that’s what “good people” do. I am a Christian because Jesus personally changed my life. Here’s that story.
In fact, I really don’t know how to separate the rhythms from the grace. I often find myself mistakenly wishing I could muster up some more feelings of grace to distribute to my kids. The error there is thinking grace is a feeling. Or something we can muster. Sure, you might temporarily be able to will yourself to be nice to someone who is rude, to rise above, or go the extra mile.
But without a source to draw from, your cup of grace for others will soon empty.
I heard an Indian proverb quoted on the radio. Something to the effect of: “You know what you’re full of by what spills out when you get bumped.” The image here is a woman walking through town with a jug of water on her head. Were she to get bumped, a little water would spill out, revealing what was in the jug.
So, when you get bumped, what spills out?
In order to spill out grace, the proverbial water jug on our heads need be filled to the brim with grace. John 1:16 says that “from the abundance of Jesus we have all received grace upon grace” or “one gracious blessing after another.”
So, God gives it, you accept it and let it fill your cup, then it flows out of you to others… including your children.
THE ROOFTOP DECK
I picture motherhood like a high rise condo with an awesome rooftop deck. There’s a great view up there. And a pool, and fun drinks, and a whole separate kiddie pool. With childcare, obviously. Ha!
And there’s this giant ladder on the side of the building.
If you’re doing the rhythms without grace, it’s like you’re climbing that ladder. You can hear the party, and you think you’re super close. “I’m almost there! Just a few more rungs and then I’ll have it all figured out.”
Then you look up and realize you’re only on the second story, and there’s 98 stories left to climb.
Rhythms & grace together are like being at the party from the start. You find the rhythms that work for you, season them with God’s perfect grace, and you’re just up on the sweet rooftop deck, doing your thang.
Not every minute is amazing. Some things are still really hard. Heck, life is hard. But the overall vibe can be like being on the super cool rooftop deck. Because you’ve found your rhythms. You know motherhood comes in seasons and you’re allowing God’s grace to flow through you to your kiddos and your home.
OK, BUT HOW!?
If you’re reading this and thinking, “Okay. I get that. But how?”… you’re in the right place.
The next 4 posts will be immensely practical. Mostly focused on rhythms and how tos. How to find the rhythms and be on the rooftop deck. How to let the grace flow.
But grace is the foundation. So we had to start there.
Today’s ACTION ITEM is answering the following questions. Write your answers down. If you’re feeling brave, tell a friend or comment below.
How would you describe your current mom life?
- Haphazard – no rhyme or reason, I’m a free spirit. But sometimes it feels like survival mode.
- Rigid or scheduled – I like a plan, so our life is full of routines. But when things go off schedule, I’m not really sure what to do and fall into survival.
- I don’t even know – I’m just trying to figure out how to get a weekly shower in.
Do you regularly give yourself time to experience God’s grace? Is grace connected to your everyday mom life? If so, how? If not, why do you think it’s not?
You are loved,
You can go on to the next post in the series here.