This post is #2 in a 5 part series titled “Rhythms & Grace of Every Day Mom Life.” You can find all the posts in the series here.
I hope yesterday’s lesson clarified the concept of rhythms & grace and how they work together. As promised, the rest of this course will be totally practical. Tons of lists and illustrations and ideas and how tos.
Okay, here we go.
Today, we’re going to figure out the 1 rhythm that will help you the most.
ACTION ITEM #1
List the times or activities throughout your day that feel the most stressful to you.
It could be…
- First thing in the morning
- Meal times
- Getting out the door in general, or to somewhere specific
- Middle of the night nursing sessions
- Getting kiddo(s) to naps or nighttime sleep
- Grocery shopping
- Trying to work from home
Or something totally different.
ACTION ITEM #2
Pick the one thing on that list that is the most stressful/ agonizing. Circle it or write it down.
ACTION ITEM #3
Why is that one thing the most stressful? What specifically is so hard or irritating about that? Write down your answer…. This answer is key to helping you figure out your rhythm.
Like I said in the introductory email… the idea of rhythms and grace radically improved my everyday mom life. So, I’m going to use examples of rhythms we’ve adopted and habits I’ve changed to help make the point and give you ideas.
But the point of the course is for you to figure out new rhythms that work for you. My rhythms might be different than your rhythms and that’s totally fine. Mine are just examples to help you think through the process of making your own rhythms.
Right after my 3rd baby was born, I realized laundry had become insanely annoying to me. I started to think through everything about it that felt irritating and stressful…
- There was at least enough dirty laundry to do 1 load every day. Often more.
- I would forget laundry in the washing machine all the time and have to re-wash it because it smelled like mildew when I remembered it.
- When I did remember to move it to the dryer, our 1970s dryer was falling apart and would take at least 75 minutes to dry a normal sized load. Sometimes longer.
- I was nursing a newborn and the two toddlers were on a different sleep schedule than the newborn, so I had very few, if any, breaks during the days. I didn’t want to spend my 1 hour of free time folding laundry.
- At night, I was exhausted and would collapse into bed knowing that middle-of-the-night-feedings were coming. So I didn’t want to fold it at night.
- Since I didn’t like folding laundry during kid-free time, I’d fold it while they were awake. But then I’d constantly get interrupted.
- There was no place to fold laundry out of the way…There would often be a half folded load on the kitchen table when everyone was getting hangry. If I left it on the floor, it’d obviously get destroyed. Sometimes I would get it folded start to finish and leave the basket somewhere. Because the kids are allowed to play in baskets of unfolded laundry, or in empty baskets, they’d sometimes forget to notice if it was folded and dump it everywhere.
Needless to say – the laundry was SUPER irritating. But I was gonna have to get ‘er done for the next 20 years, so I was determined to figure out a way not to despise laundry.
Once I identified the specifics of why the laundry was so annoying, I could try things that might “fix” or eliminate as many of those irritating factors as possible.
The next post will cover how to make a workable rhythm for the thing that stresses you the most!
You can go on to the next post in the series here.