This post is #4 in a 5 part series titled “Rhythms & Grace of Every Day Mom Life.” You can find all the posts in the series here.
Did you have a chance to try your new rhythm from the previous post yet? If so, evaluate how it went and make alterations to your rhythm-plan as necessary. Developing rhythms that work for your family is a process of trial and error.
Today, I want to talk about how seasons affect rhythms.
Because, here’s the thing. Motherhood happens in seasons. Some are long, some are short. But the seasons affect the rhythms you have.
For example, newborn season affects laundry rhythms. It may feel like a newborn is so tiny and so needy FOR-EV-ER, but they’re really only newborns for a couple months.
2 of our 3 newborns have had crazy amounts of spit up and occasional projectile vomit. Then there’s the nursing-newborn poop explosions. Liquidy, nasty, smelly poop everywhere.
None of that lends itself well to my rhythm of once-a-week laundry. There’s the stains and the stanky-ness. Plus, we don’t own enough newborn clothes to make it through a whole week of changing clothes 2-5 times a day.
So, for the season of having a newborn, I will likely have a daily or every-other-day laundry rhythm. It is what it is. Long-term, I don’t plan to do laundry daily because I’ve found it’s not the rhythm that works for me.
See how the newborn season affects the laundry rhythm?
The newborn season actually affects a lot of rhythms… it upheaves your previous routines and time frames and activities and throws you into a whirlwind of survival and sleeplessness and takeout and freezer meals.
ACTION ITEM #1
Identify your current season and approximately how long it will last.
My season is stay-at-home-mom to 3 kids under 4 who works part-time as a blogger. My 4 ½ year old can already do SO much more than she could a year ago. She unloads the dishwasher every morning, dresses herself, gets herself ready and out the door, etc. I think of age 5 or 6 (depending on the child) as when they’ll make another independence leap into being able to do quite a bit more for themselves. Needless to say, since the baby is only 1, I’ll be in this season-of-small-children for the next few years.
When we were pregnant with our 3rd, our other two littles were 1 ½ and 3 years old. I spent some time thinking through what newborn season would entail… and how having a newborn would affect our day-to-day routines.
ACTION ITEM #2
Look at your list of stressors from day 2 – the rhythms you want to change. Pick your top 2 or 3 to focus on.
ACTION ITEM #3
Think about and write down at least 3 ways your current season affects the rhythms that you’re used to. Do you have rhythms that make sense with your season of life or do you need to adopt some new rhythms to make things work?
The final post in this series will talk about what’s next… How to go forth in new rhythms & grace. You can read that here.
You can go on to the final post in the series here.